hey peeps,

As mentioned I will be touching on some relationship issues in the next few weeks, due to request form some of my readers, however  this one has to be the first as there needs to be a line drawn ……

Ask yourself the following questions ?

• Do you find yourself calling people three, four, five times . . . even after they haven’t returned a phone call?

• How about endless text messaging or emailing someone even when there are no responses to any of them?

There are many different ways that someone can be a stalker. There’s the scary Glenn Close type from “Fatal Attraction,” who has a penchant for boiling bunny rabbits and jumping out of bathtubs.

There’s the creepy ex against whom you have to get a restraining order to stop them from coming over to your house.

Then there is the form of stalker no one talks about. It’s usually the man or woman who doesn’t understand that when a person does not respond after the second phone message, text message or email, that the person is no longer interested.

I’m not very big into rules, but there is one by which I think everyone should abide: If you’ve left a few messages for someone and they haven’t called you back, then he (or she) just not that into you.

As Miranda on “Sex & The City” once told a group of women sitting on the library steps, if you leave a couple of messages for a man and he doesn’t call you back, he’s just not that into you. Plain and simple: If you’re a man who leaves a woman a few messages and she doesn’t call you back, you’re done.

If you text him/her several times and he/she doesn’t respond, you’re done. Technology didn’t stop working. Him/her fingers simply stopped responding to you. If you email someone a few times and they don’t respond, you’re done. The spam filter that wasn’t there before did not just magically appear.

So now let’s get it right. The term is no longer “he (or she) is just not that into you.” The new term is “you’re done!” Finished. Done. End of the game – no two minute warning and no instant replay. You’re done. 

Protect your dignity and walk away. Anything past a few messages and you ARE a stalker. There are plenty of people to date. Don’t ever get caught harassing someone who does not want to date you.

Until da Next Tyme !