The most direct route is to zoom in on ‘Who am I?’ Yet, often we are afraid to do just this? Why? What are we afraid will happen? Question your fear. When we face our fears they lessen and eventually dissipate. Ask yourself, ‘Who am I?’ ‘What are my original qualities?’ Sit in the awareness that you are a peaceful or loving or happy soul. What is there to fear in this? Allow yourself to experience your original qualities of peace, love and happiness. As you do, your confidence in yourself will grow. 

 

Doubt is a big one. That you can’t do it or face it. Instead be determined to hold your ground against doubt. After all, what is doubt? It is just a thought. ‘I can do it.’  This is a thought too. It is a determined thought. Play with thoughts and see how different ones affect your confidence.  Confidence is just a thought away.

 

Also, practice living in the moment as there is no fear in this moment. Doubt is almost always related to recalling something of past. ‘Right now I am powerful and I can.’

 

Watch out too for those critical voices. There is the inner one and then there are the outer ones (others). Why do you listen to these? Why do you assume these critical voices are true? When we entertain these we invite doubt to come in and sit down to tea with us. Why not listen to the encouraging ones instead and invite them in for tea instead?

 

One reason we entertain these critical voices is that they allow us to stay in our comfort zones.  However, staying within them erodes our confidence over time. If we want to boost our confidence, we need to dare to extend them. We need to dare to face our fears: to ask ‘Who am I?